The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
(Genesis 2:23-25, NASB)
Now I have to admit, I haven't tried to read a lot on the current lib/prog cause of the moment. I've read some quotes from Dan Cathy (founder of Chick-fil-A) and browsed a few "how dare you" blog posts and I kinda wonder if the professionally offended class were waiting for a chance to pounce on the man who makes a damn fine chicken sandwich, treats his employees well, and (dare I say it?) trains them to be polite to their customers.
Yes, even insignificant me is watched on a semi-regular basis by some in the professionally offended class. So I am quite sure there are folks out there who think it is their job, their solemn responsibility to be on the look out for any utterance by someone who has yet to get the message. Ho Hum.
But there is one thing I would like to set the record straight on. As far as I've read, Dan Cathy has nothing against marriage equality. I'm pretty sure he doesn't support "marriage" equality, though. That's a problem. Because our professionally offended class is very adept at wielding their Newspeak as an offensive weapon and those who walk into the arena unprepared are usually cowed (as we've seen so recently).
Two men can no more be married to each other than one of them can be married to his dog. Two women can no more be married to each other than one of them can be married to her pet dolphin. Such things are metaphysical impossibilities akin to claiming to be a married bachelor or to have drawn a perfectly round square. They just do not exist in this world. They don't exist in any world that is not imaginary.
Marriage is the publicly recognized union of man and woman. Every single one of us has the equal right to marriage. Sally Ride's right to marriage was no more infringed than my right to marriage because Clive Owen won't return my phone calls (OK, so I've never called him and he is married already, but you get the point, right?). Depth of feeling does not create a right to anything, much less something as foundational to society as marriage. Yes, marriage is limited by custom and reason in circumstances of age and consanguinity. But again, those limitations apply to all equally.
Desire, deep emotion, years of building a life together - none of these create a right to marriage. Because that is not what marriage is.
So let's just drop the Newspeak, shall we? You may win society's recognition of a fiction. But that is not a victory. It is a defeat for us all. A defeat for our children's future and our very survival as a culture. It will be left for the children of marriage, the real thing, to pick up the pieces of the society you broke. There will be a few of these sterile "marriages" which can afford to purchase the manufacture of a child with the help of outside parties. But they will remain few. It will be the children of fertile marriages that rebuild the future.
I pray they are strong enough and faithful to do the hard work we will leave for them.
- For two books showing how this is all very deliberate see Victory: The Triumphant Gay Revolution and After the Ball .
- For a discussion of the definition and meaning of marriage, Moral and Canonical Aspect of Marriage